Youth is a Choice – Apr 9th, 2008

I just turned 29 a few weeks ago and a lot of my friends are turning 50 this year… people you wouldn’t have expected to be 50 by looking at them. Near my birthday one conversation came up 3 times (which is always a hint to me to pay attention). Three different people within 36 hours told me about deciding on their 29th birthday that they weren’t going to look a day over 29 the rest of their lives. One person even shared that he had chosen to do this after reading an article on his 29th birthday about a woman in her 50s who had made the same decision 20-some years earlier when she had met a woman who had done the same thing 20 some years before that. All of them had been very pleased with the results, reporting regular comments on their youthful appearance and a sense of satisfaction in the reflection in the mirror. They also reported feeling youthful with health and mobility.

So I considered this. I thought of Louise Hay’s book “You Can Heal Your Life” and how our emotions manifest in our physical form. I thought of the teachings of the Law of Attraction, that what you think about, and feel about, you bring about. I thought of just common sense… If I’m telling myself every day that “I’m beautiful, healthy and viabrant,” I’ll be more likely to make choices in alignment with that statement… eating an apple instead of chips, or continuing to exercise and stay active, and placing myself around people who are also youthful and active. I thought of how many people submit to the idea of “getting old.” How many people use age as an excuse to notice changes in their appearance or how they feel. By simply writing it off as a side affect of aging, they release any and all power to do anything about it. We know through the law of attraction that we are always in a space to consciously manifest what we desire, or to unconsciously manifest what our run-away brains are producing.

One thing I noticed in myself is that by applying the ideas I’ve been learning in Science of Mind, and Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth and in all the things that have come to me in the last few years, is that this new way of living is very light… another word could be buoyant. Living from a non-judgmental, allowing, giving, joyous heart space is much lighter (buoyant) and lighter (radiant) than how I was living before. This new lightness that I am carrying in my life must be reflected through form by law, and I’m willing to be aware that this lightness is easy on the body, and that it’s the path of resistance that makes the body tense, tired, weak, wrinkly, and worn. What if the body doesn’t age unless our thoughts age it? our resistance to what is ages it?

I see now that this is not a practice of resisting the “falling away of form” as will happen with all things, but it’s an allowing of the light to come through me. I like Rev. Michael Beckwith’s description of God as Love-Beauty, and so as Eckhart Tolle describes that source energy is the dancer and we are the dance… I now invite Love-Beauty to take over my life, radiate through me, take me for a magnificent ride, and I shall be your puppet, as you pull the strings and together we will spread Love and Beauty throughout the world, if only for my own enjoyment.

My new affirmations are:

“I am Beautiful (full of Beauty) every day in every way” – Love-Beauty radiates through me from within and beyond in such a way that I attract and reflect all beauty in all things, the natural state of being which is easy.

“I am Youthful (full of Youth) in excellent health and polished form.” – My openness to life keeps me youthful in Spirit and in Form. I experience health, beauty and the lightness of an open, accepting, exuberant heart.”

The Grace of God or The Grace of Flow – Jan 17th, 2008

Lately i’ve been practicing flow with total abandon. I’ve ignored emails, mail, calendars, invitations to parties and trips. I simply allowed the present moment to be what it is and allowed the rest to work itself out. It has been 1.5 months of flow and I returned from hibernation this week, fearful of the mess that must be there.

I discovered that there were many things i had “missed” that others might be upset with me for. I discovered that my bank card # had been compromised in my absence. I discovered that I had missed emails from tense brides wanting information. i discovered that I had accidentally sent an album for a bride to the wrong designer… costing us from $200-$300. And on a side note, I discovered that when i emerge from my house, I look like a person who used to care about fashion… as my outfit is usually fairly well put together, but reminiscent of styles from several seasons ago, as I haven’t been shopping since the summer.

I also discovered that I missed a coaching meeting this morning and embarrassed i quickly wrote to my client that “today’s theme has been my goofs” and told her that I am hoping that my oversight is in perfect alignment with the universe.

At that moment I went to check my phone to see if she had even called. It appears that we both forgot about the appointment! I was in alignement.

And the bank card #… it’s already been handled, I didn’t have to do anything. And the tense bride… already handled by Angi, i didn’t have to do anything. And the wrong designer situation… probably not a big deal… they already expressed loving the designers style to the designer and they’ll probably take the option I’d like them to take… the path of least resistance.

It seems that if I’d never read the mail to discover the bride was tense, or the bank card was stolen, or checked the files and noticed the album was different, or remembered the meeting from this morning that things would have worked out the same or better. In fact, if I’d never noticed that the album was wrong, the client might not have never noticed either and the company would have been spared the $200 expense. Of course once I knew it, I had no choice but to reveal it, as it is my practice to be completely honest.

It seems that today’s theme is actually the GRACE of FLOW.

I expected that everything would fall apart if I stopped trying to control and stay on top of it all… so when I returned looking for that, that is what I found. I found disappointed people, mistakes made, problems to solve… However, the “falling apart” was a facade for a well oiled machine called FLOW. there was no reason for my attention on it after all. People weren’t really that disappointed, especailly after redefining my roles with them. And everything else had solved itself.

There is one box, chocked full of things I need to place my attention on… i find myself wondering if I’ll be better off if I just allow it to be and wait for the moment that digging through it feels like fun. Until that moment, my lesson learned is that I’ll probably make things harder than they are if I try to dig in now and “do” “do” “do” and if I just allow them to handle themselves, ease and abundance flow through my life. I choose Ease and Abundance please! and thanks!

Truth is in the Pauses – Nov 5th, 2007

The message of truth is in the pauses.

When you pose a question, whether to a friend, loved one, yourself or the universe… make sure to wait long enough to hear the FULL answer. Usually the first answer is only the tip of the iceberg.

Simply don’t respond, and wait, and the desire to fill the silence will draw out greater depth to the conversation. It’s a beautiful trick I learned from my mother-n-law while dating my husband. Cynthia is a psychotherapist and a master at pulling information out of people. She would inevitably wait so long to respond to my responses when we were first getting to know each other, that I would awkwardly blabber on and on until I stuck my foot in my mouth, uttering something totally inappropriate. Of course, she never minded, knowing exactly what she was doing.

Now I find this vitally useful when listening to my own intuition. When posing a question to myself and the Universe at large, it’s easy to whine my way through a myriad of questions and huff a sigh of frustration at the end… still feeling confused. However, with my new tool of prayer journaling, I write my questions one at a time and wait patiently until the answer arrives. I’ve been so satisfied with the speed of most results, that when it doesn’t come quickly, I’m not the least bit bothered by it. I simply know from experience, that the answer will come when I’m ready.

me journaling in our bedroom

It’s all in the name… – Sep 21st, 2007

Hello friends…

I’m trying out my new name and would love feedback. I found a delightfully witty company in San Fransico called www.ahundredmonkeys.com who inspired me to improve upon my branding. There Top 10 Tips for naming a company included “check to see if it has a pulse” and something to the affect… it needs to relate to the topic but also have mystery. My previous name did not meet either of these requirements and I think my new name does.

BLISSfix, Inc. – where you feed your happiness addiction.

I’d love to hear any positive feedback and any other catchy suggestions. Thanks so much!

-heather

To Drink or not to Drink, that is the question – Sep 5th, 2007

A curiosity that has been coursing my brain lately is… “why is alcohol so important in our society?” This summer has been very different for me socially. Going out has lost its luster, single friends have become more difficult to entertain… the things that used to satisfy my leisure time don’t even come close anymore. In the last three months I’ve gone from 1-2 drinks a day, to maybe 1-2 drinks a week. I’ve considered and continue to consider going dry all together. (I don’t like rigidity, so that’s the only thing keeping me from saying the declaration at this point) A lot of what I’m studying now credits chemicals we put in our bodies (caffeine, alcohol, excess sugars, prescription and non prescription drugs, etc.) with preventing us from experiencing real happiness and peace. And when look at it… it’s true. I drink when i need to achieve a mood shift that I assume my brain, my spirit, and my heart can’t handle on their own. And everytime I use that alcohol crutch to ease stress, or “cut off the work day,” i cripple my natural ability to maintain a state of well being without the aide of anything. Meditation, journaling, talking to my coach, etc. has become a much more positive way of moving forward and shifting my life to one that I enjoy more authentically.

One thing I have noticed though, is that it has been difficult to find social outlets that support my new outlook. I found solace at a coffee shop, (drinking caffeine free of course) but somewhere around dark the mood shifted to a bunch of chain smoking AA groups. Since I’m very protective of my lungs, that’s not an option. But I’m still searching. I’m holding out on faith that within the next few weeks I will attract a group of people who are seeking similar forms of entertainment in a state of productive awareness instead of denial & detachment.

Pretty much every activity I do these days has to move me forward on my chosen path of happiness or I become irritated. And with that, alcohol is starting to bug me as it doesn’t achieve for me the state of relaxation it used to deliver… now I feel like it simply “dumbs me down” and slows my progress.

Like I said, I prefer to avoid rigidity and embrace conscious choice… so no declarations just yet, but I am asking myself with each opportunity to drink… does this beverage serve me right now? Or can I learn something about my inner strength, my inner light, and my true self by having a water instead? I hope the answer continues to lead me to water.

Creating a Covenant with the Universe – Aug 16th, 2007

With the understanding these three of the Laws of the Universe, the Law of Oneness, the Law of Neutrality and the Law of Attraction, we realize that we already are who we want to be. We realize that the universe supports us in every loving step toward our desired reality. We realize that we are one, right now, with everything that is, ever has been and ever will be… we are whole. With that understanding I claim now my own power with the strength of the universe and I encourage you to do the same.

MY COVENANT WITH THE UNIVERSE

The Universe supports me with messages, clear and wise messages that direct me confidently on my path. I am connected to the source and these messages at all times. The Universe provides abundance in advance, so that I am always in a state of enoughness… almost to the point that opportunities and green energy arrives and I think, “oh, God must have something planned for me!” The Universe lovingly reflects back to me my strengths and shows me, guides me, pushes me into the path of my destiny. Joy, happiness and fulfillment come easily to me, as do abundance and constant gratitude.

I know and realize that I create my life. I agree to consciously create, knowing Universal Law is always there ready to support me in whatever I am willing to receive. I create in conscious connection with Spirit, knowing that I am already all that I am destined to be… I am ready now. Guidance, support and abundance is my birthright. All wisdom and approriate opportunities flow easily to me as I joyfully create my successful, expansive, fun, fulfilling, Spirit-driven business to change the world for the better.

This is my covenant with the Universe and my reality.

I will be changing this daily… re-reading it and altering it to feel more authentic and understandable each day. I sincerely encourage you to establish your written relationship with your Universe… it is the most empowering belief you can cultivate in yourself… a conscious decision to be connected, to be perfect as you are, and to receive all that you want to be.

Peace and Many Blessings,
Heather

Life has Loveliness – Aug 12th, 2007

It’s funny when things find you. today Sara Teasdale found me. Never mind that she’s 75 years in the grave. Below is what she had to say.

Barter
“Life has loveliness to sell,
All beautiful and splendid things,
Blue waves whitened on a cliff,
Soaring fire that sways and sings,
And children’s faces looking up,
Holding wonder like a cup.
Life has loveliness to sell,
Music like a curve of gold,
Scent of pine trees in the rain,
Eyes that love you, arms that hold,
And for your spirit’s still delight,
Holy thoughts that star the night.
Spend all you have for loveliness,
Buy it and never count the cost;
For one white singing hour of peace
Count many a year of strife well lost,
And for a breath of ecstasy
Give all you have been, or could be.”
Sara Teasdale

Spend all you have and never count the cost. I love it. I feel sure that if she was reincarnated, she must have returned to us as the wonderful lyricist Joni Mitchell.

So what does that mean for me? and what does it mean for you? What is your definition of loveliness? your breath of ecstasy?

For me, I completely connect with her description of nature… how that watching the rain or basking in the sun or scents so unique they bring back memories of far away times… how that these simple, over-lookable things can become a spiritual experience and a connection to the infinite. To be in that state of awe and wonder… to look through the eyes of a child… is to be in a state of absolute bliss.

My challenge to you is to consider how you can do this minute by minute, hour by hour and respond back here. What could serve as a reminder to “hold wonder like a cup?” Also, with that response… please share moments of feeling this way in your past and also in this present moment… share your version of loveliness.

The Secret Sermon… why receiving is good; it allows us to give – Jul 30th, 2007

We’re in Morro Bay right now, just north of San Luis Obispo. Which is about 2 hrs north of Santa Barbara which is an hour north of LA. All places we stopped.

It’s been an amazing trip, and Sean has been so loving. The guy that I once broke up with because he wasn’t religious at all, is now on a new path of spirituality… he’s learning about Reiki and Chakras right now… and we went to a church in LA on Wed. and Sun. It’s the church that Michael Beckwith leads, the guy with dreadlocks in the movie The Secret. www.agapelive.com it was awesome… the music was amazing and his message both days was so applicable and inspiring. Lisa Nichols, also in the secret, was there on sunday which makes 8 people i’ve seen live that were in the movie.

in case some of you don’t know what The Secret is, www.thesecret.tv, it was showcased on Oprah twice, and on Larry King Live 3+ times. I saw it for the first time at a seminar with my aunt in Sedona, AZ last november, and my life has been completely different ever sense. A lot of people are obsessed with it (sean and I probably fall on the edge of this category) and some people have had strong resistance to it, saying that it’s too focused on money. To those people I say, I can see where you’re coming from, but consider that it has 5 chapters, only one of them being on money… Health, Relationships, Spirituality, Personal Growth and Money. It’s my personal belief that if it leans toward material goods and money in the movie, it’s because that’s how they expected to get the average american’s attention. If you are looking for a reason to make life hard, then focus on what you don’t like, and if you are looking for a way to be more receptive from God, in ALL the areas of life, INCLUDING receiving money (i call it Green Energy) then check it out with an open mind.

So many of us were told that money is bad, money is the root of all evil, … it actually says, the LOVE of MONEY is the root of all evil… instead of the LOVE of the SOURCE… ie. God. Money is good as long as it isn’t an end of itself… it provides us clothing and food and gas to get us where we want to be, it provides us with an education, and a means to become who we want to be in the world… and truly money doesn’t provide us that… God/the Universe does, money is just what we use as a representation of the services we or our loved ones have served, and therefor we receive in direct proportion of what we give via other forms of energy. When you look at money for what it really is, and realize that it can serve your greatest good, if you choose for it to, it truly isn’t evil at all.

Think of all the ways that we judge things and crave them at the same time… Some of us love designer clothing… some of us love expensive cars… is it bad to appreciate creations of talented human beings? I don’t think it is. Think about how you feel in your favorite outfit… on fire? like you’re on top of the world… like you can do anything, charm anyone, you’re in a great mood because you feel good! Couldn’t that “feeling good” be directly from God? Couldn’t the money spent on that outfit be the green energy thank you for the work energy you put into your job. Couldn’t the design of that outfit have been divinely inspired in the mind of a designer who then created it? Could it be that God would like you at your best… feeling good all the time because that’s when you are the most giving, loving, and joyful… spreading more good to others. Could it be? I think the answer is YES. I think that feeling good … and filling yourself up, so that it is so easy for you to positively affect everyone you encounter, to fully receive all the joys of life, understanding that the source is always from the divine, that you are then the most capable of passing that amazing energy to others, and what greater gift, than to be joyful and uplifting to the stranger at the grocery store, to our co-workers, to our families.

When was the last time your family experienced you in a joyful mood? I can tell you that before the changes I have made in my life that was rare to never. Every time i talked to my mom, it was because I had something to complain about. Now when we talk its because I have something to be grateful for, and our relationship has completely revolutionized itself. She’s going through chemo right now, and i’ve never heard her more optimistic… but she’s seen the Secret, and she’s reading books that remind her that she has a choice… She can choose to be grateful, and choose to receive goodness from any source and be thankful to God, or she can choose to focus on what’s not working. Some days she chooses the latter, as we all do, but most days she is living in the beautiful abundance that is our life… she’s focusing on all the good, her house, her husband, her family, her community, her abundance, her beach condo, her nice car, her trips with friends, her pet, and the list goes on… which she believes is directly from God.

What can you be grateful for? What shifts in your mood and daily experience could you create for your own benefit and the benefit of all people around you?

I pray that this message finds you at the exact right time and that you are able to experience complete joy because of the path it’s calling you to. Please know these words came from beyond me… if they connect, you can consider it a message directly from your higher power… be that God, The Universe, or Your Gut… if you’re still reading, it’s talking to you now! I’m simply the messenger.

JOVIUS – Jul 28th, 2007

Ladies and Gents,

I must share with you the joy I’ve found in the daily emails from www.jovius.org. Each email is more insightful and enlightening than the next. It was a challenge for me to receive something from a source I didn’t understand, but the messages are so beautiful and connected to the life I am creating for myself, that I have released any attachment to that need. I can simply receive from the universe without fully understanding where the guidance is coming from. Truly, did I ever think I would ever fully understand?

I hope those of you who read this will find the emails equally divine!

if you connect with this thought pattern, also consider checking out this website. http://www.firethegrid.com/ a very interesting story from an equally doubtful (at first) receiver of messages… the video Fire the Grid can be found on YouTube.com and although the date has passed, it is a very good story to listen to. You’ll need 45 minutes to hear it in its entirity.

all my best!

EnJoy the state of Being In Joy – Jul 17th, 2007

Enjoy

In joy

It seems to me that every point of my life has been blessed by the words of someone older and wiser saying “Enjoy it!”

“Enjoy your youth, it’s gone before you know it!”

“Enjoy just being married, no need to rush into having children.”

“Enjoy when your kids are young, they’ll be grown soon!”

Do they say it because they forgot, too? It certainly seems like advice dispensed from a place of mild jealousy… but it occurs to me that the young married couple envious of the kid going off to college for their first taste of freedom, is at the very same time, the envy of mother of four, who is the envy of the couple with the empty nest, who is the envy of the couple who never had kids or grandkids, who is the envy of, who is the envy of, who is the envy of. They all want to tell each other to embrace the moment, and do any of them listen? And for that matter, will any of them take their own advice. Shouldn’t they embrace their own moments without longingly peering over someone else’s?

Tonight I drove with the top down, listening to great music on Coffeehouse Satellite Radio, my little fur-ball, RiRa, climbing back and forth across my lap to see out. I felt so blessed the entire drive… drinking in the night air and well manicured surroundings; enjoying the endless amusement of my young pooch; savoring the “freedom” of my “youth.”

At that moment I pulled up to a stop light next to a woman, about 5 years my elder, driving a much more practical car with a child’s seat in the back. She looked happy, too, but it occurred to me that I must look so free in my fun, zippy car, with my pooch and blissful music. I wondered how her life is in comparison and how mine will change once I make that shift to motherhood. It was then that the words from so many rang through in my head… “Enjoy this time before having kids” and I realized that although I was truly grateful for this night and my current experience, that I could be even more conscious about my exuberant blessings. And then when I have kids I will continue to be grateful; grateful for their cuteness, their health and their potential. And as they grow, I’ll be grateful for the lessened responsibility, their achievements, and their individuality. And once their out of the house, I’ll be grateful for the extra time, and once they’re in the real world, I’ll be grateful for the financial boost. Every part of life is delicious in its own way and it’s up to me, to heed the advice of others and myself and to consciously soak up the moments that I will one day be nostalgic about.

I shall enjoy being in joy from this day forward.