BLISSfix Quotables – topic: people pleasing

January 13, 2010 at 4:40 am Leave a comment

“I can’t give you a sure-fire formula for success, but I can give you a formula for failure: try to please every the time.”  –  Herbert Bayard Swope

This quote is yet another reason why I’m pumped about learning and practicing Nonviolent Communication.  Kelly Bryson talked about being ‘other directed’ in his book, Don’t Be Nice, Be Real, saying that through our social training, we are taught to be focused on what others want from us all the time.  Bingo!  Ding ding ding ding!  You got your people pleaser right here!

I was so focused on what other people wanted from me, that I had no idea what I wanted myself!  What authentically makes me happy?  What authentically pisses me off?  Am I allowed to be pissed off?  I didn’t think I was.

I’ve gotten better, but 30 years of training doesn’t get undone in one night.  Either way, I’m grateful for the progress I’ve made and I’m eager to learn more!

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