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BLISS in the sad times, too.

Last Saturday I weeped through a beautiful memorial service for family friend David Bertke.  We had met Dave and his wife, Phyllis, through Sean’s parents many years ago and had enjoyed each other at dinners, church and even on a photo shoot in 2007 as they became our models.  What I remember most about Dave where his shining eyes and his constant, hopeful, upbeat expression.  I don’t remember him ever not smiling.  ever.

A mutual friend, Laura Neff, posted her favorite quote from the service on facebook.  She wrote:

‘”He wasn’t a glass half empty kind of guy. He wasn’t even a glass half full kind of guy. His glass just never stopped overflowing!’ <– Shared by the widow of a much-loved man at his memorial service yesterday. Really made me think about what I’d want folks to be able to say about me at MY memorial service, and how to live that way NOW.”

That was my favorite quote, as well.  Another contributer to the service agreed and recounted story of how his wife and Dave had been talking after church one Sunday when a third person joined the conversation with an attitude of doom and gloom.  When the third party left, Dave turned to her and said something to the affect of, “I simply find the world so wonderful that I don’t have time to worry about that stuff.”

I love this concept and immediately asked myself to consider being a bit more like Dave.  To not get caught up (as I sometimes do) in the “hell in a handbasket” mentality common with people who wish to change the world… but to be as Ghandi suggested and be the change I wish to see, by getting caught up in all that is right with the world.  To cherrish each blade of grass and each flower, to celebrate the song of birds and for me… the sounds of crickets and frogs croaking in the marsh, or the buzz of the summer cicadas, the breeze on my skin, the joy of a friend’s laughter or the look in my love’s eyes just before he says “I love my babee!” And a million other wonderful things.

Yes, Dave, you are right.  Who has time for gloom?

It was the music that stayed with me more than anything though.  Clair de lune by Debussy filled the room during the prelude… and another song touched my heart… the words are below and they sum up my thoughts on how to say goodbye to the people we love here on the physical plane.  In fact, it is to not say goodbye at all…

I’m choosing to believe that we always exist on the ethereal planes of our universe, as Einstein proved energy can never be created or destroyed, but sometimes we are concentrated here in the physical.  And just because the soul is no longer connected to the body, I choose to believe that the soul lives on, that Dave still exists.  And so while I cried for those he left behind and the loss they will suffer, I feel love and joy for him and the person he was.  And I feel inspired by the way he lived his life and a deep desire to be more like him.  And I hope that one day I will understand how to feel only love and joy for the grieving as well, as the Course in Miracles teaches me that when I sigh, the whole world sighs with me.  Perhaps the world would appreciate my choice to be happy instead.

Let It Be a Dance (by Rick Maston)

Let it be a dance we do.
May I have this dance with you?
For the good times, and the bad times too,
Let it be a dance.

Let a dancing song be heard.
Play the music. Say the words.
Fill the sky with sailing birds.
Let it be a dance. Let it be a dance. Let it be a dance.

Every body turn and spin.
Let your bodies learn to bend
Like a willow in the wind,
And let it be a dance.

A child is born. We all must die.
A time for joy, a time to cry —
So, take it as it passes by,
And let it be a dance. Let it be a dance. Let it be a dance.

Let it be a dance we do.
May I have this dance with you?
For the good times, and the bad times too,
Let it be a dance.

The morning star comes out at night.
Without the dark, there’d be no light.
Yet, if nothing’s wrong, then nothing’s right.
So, let it be a dance. Let it be a dance. Let it be a dance.

Let the sun shine. Let it rain.
Share the laughter. Bear the pain.
Round and round we go again,
And let it be a dance.

Let it be a dance we do.
May I have this dance with you?
For the good times, and the bad times too,
Let it be a dance.

Copyright Rick Marsden

This entry is dedicated to my friend Cristy Irvin Phillips who lost her mom this past weekend.  My heart and love are with you.

July 6, 2010 at 5:15 am Leave a comment

BLISSfix recommends Heather Frahn

Not only is Heather Frahn a talented song writer, muscian and singer, she’s also the creator of Conscious Music Movement.  Puruse many of her songs at her site and enjoy the one below who’s message is “Happiness comes from within!”  Amen, sister!

February 21, 2009 at 7:49 am Leave a comment

BLISSfix Recommends Dar Williams “The Christians and The Pagans”

I’ve loved this song for years, but lately it cause me to get teary eyed thinking of the love and acceptance that is expressed here.  I feel so much love and acceptance in all the world these days.  I hope that this song is an inspiration to all of us to welcome different folks with different strokes to our tables with the hope of love and understanding.

January 26, 2009 at 4:18 pm 1 comment

BLISSfix recommends 60 Minutes’ Wyclef Jean’s Hope For Haiti Story


January 19, 2009 at 4:45 am Leave a comment