Youth is a Choice – Apr 9th, 2008

I just turned 29 a few weeks ago and a lot of my friends are turning 50 this year… people you wouldn’t have expected to be 50 by looking at them. Near my birthday one conversation came up 3 times (which is always a hint to me to pay attention). Three different people within 36 hours told me about deciding on their 29th birthday that they weren’t going to look a day over 29 the rest of their lives. One person even shared that he had chosen to do this after reading an article on his 29th birthday about a woman in her 50s who had made the same decision 20-some years earlier when she had met a woman who had done the same thing 20 some years before that. All of them had been very pleased with the results, reporting regular comments on their youthful appearance and a sense of satisfaction in the reflection in the mirror. They also reported feeling youthful with health and mobility.

So I considered this. I thought of Louise Hay’s book “You Can Heal Your Life” and how our emotions manifest in our physical form. I thought of the teachings of the Law of Attraction, that what you think about, and feel about, you bring about. I thought of just common sense… If I’m telling myself every day that “I’m beautiful, healthy and viabrant,” I’ll be more likely to make choices in alignment with that statement… eating an apple instead of chips, or continuing to exercise and stay active, and placing myself around people who are also youthful and active. I thought of how many people submit to the idea of “getting old.” How many people use age as an excuse to notice changes in their appearance or how they feel. By simply writing it off as a side affect of aging, they release any and all power to do anything about it. We know through the law of attraction that we are always in a space to consciously manifest what we desire, or to unconsciously manifest what our run-away brains are producing.

One thing I noticed in myself is that by applying the ideas I’ve been learning in Science of Mind, and Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth and in all the things that have come to me in the last few years, is that this new way of living is very light… another word could be buoyant. Living from a non-judgmental, allowing, giving, joyous heart space is much lighter (buoyant) and lighter (radiant) than how I was living before. This new lightness that I am carrying in my life must be reflected through form by law, and I’m willing to be aware that this lightness is easy on the body, and that it’s the path of resistance that makes the body tense, tired, weak, wrinkly, and worn. What if the body doesn’t age unless our thoughts age it? our resistance to what is ages it?

I see now that this is not a practice of resisting the “falling away of form” as will happen with all things, but it’s an allowing of the light to come through me. I like Rev. Michael Beckwith’s description of God as Love-Beauty, and so as Eckhart Tolle describes that source energy is the dancer and we are the dance… I now invite Love-Beauty to take over my life, radiate through me, take me for a magnificent ride, and I shall be your puppet, as you pull the strings and together we will spread Love and Beauty throughout the world, if only for my own enjoyment.

My new affirmations are:

“I am Beautiful (full of Beauty) every day in every way” – Love-Beauty radiates through me from within and beyond in such a way that I attract and reflect all beauty in all things, the natural state of being which is easy.

“I am Youthful (full of Youth) in excellent health and polished form.” – My openness to life keeps me youthful in Spirit and in Form. I experience health, beauty and the lightness of an open, accepting, exuberant heart.”

The Grace of God or The Grace of Flow – Jan 17th, 2008

Lately i’ve been practicing flow with total abandon. I’ve ignored emails, mail, calendars, invitations to parties and trips. I simply allowed the present moment to be what it is and allowed the rest to work itself out. It has been 1.5 months of flow and I returned from hibernation this week, fearful of the mess that must be there.

I discovered that there were many things i had “missed” that others might be upset with me for. I discovered that my bank card # had been compromised in my absence. I discovered that I had missed emails from tense brides wanting information. i discovered that I had accidentally sent an album for a bride to the wrong designer… costing us from $200-$300. And on a side note, I discovered that when i emerge from my house, I look like a person who used to care about fashion… as my outfit is usually fairly well put together, but reminiscent of styles from several seasons ago, as I haven’t been shopping since the summer.

I also discovered that I missed a coaching meeting this morning and embarrassed i quickly wrote to my client that “today’s theme has been my goofs” and told her that I am hoping that my oversight is in perfect alignment with the universe.

At that moment I went to check my phone to see if she had even called. It appears that we both forgot about the appointment! I was in alignement.

And the bank card #… it’s already been handled, I didn’t have to do anything. And the tense bride… already handled by Angi, i didn’t have to do anything. And the wrong designer situation… probably not a big deal… they already expressed loving the designers style to the designer and they’ll probably take the option I’d like them to take… the path of least resistance.

It seems that if I’d never read the mail to discover the bride was tense, or the bank card was stolen, or checked the files and noticed the album was different, or remembered the meeting from this morning that things would have worked out the same or better. In fact, if I’d never noticed that the album was wrong, the client might not have never noticed either and the company would have been spared the $200 expense. Of course once I knew it, I had no choice but to reveal it, as it is my practice to be completely honest.

It seems that today’s theme is actually the GRACE of FLOW.

I expected that everything would fall apart if I stopped trying to control and stay on top of it all… so when I returned looking for that, that is what I found. I found disappointed people, mistakes made, problems to solve… However, the “falling apart” was a facade for a well oiled machine called FLOW. there was no reason for my attention on it after all. People weren’t really that disappointed, especailly after redefining my roles with them. And everything else had solved itself.

There is one box, chocked full of things I need to place my attention on… i find myself wondering if I’ll be better off if I just allow it to be and wait for the moment that digging through it feels like fun. Until that moment, my lesson learned is that I’ll probably make things harder than they are if I try to dig in now and “do” “do” “do” and if I just allow them to handle themselves, ease and abundance flow through my life. I choose Ease and Abundance please! and thanks! 🙂

Truth is in the Pauses – Nov 5th, 2007

The message of truth is in the pauses.

When you pose a question, whether to a friend, loved one, yourself or the universe… make sure to wait long enough to hear the FULL answer. Usually the first answer is only the tip of the iceberg.

Simply don’t respond, and wait, and the desire to fill the silence will draw out greater depth to the conversation. It’s a beautiful trick I learned from my mother-n-law while dating my husband. Cynthia is a psychotherapist and a master at pulling information out of people. She would inevitably wait so long to respond to my responses when we were first getting to know each other, that I would awkwardly blabber on and on until I stuck my foot in my mouth, uttering something totally inappropriate. Of course, she never minded, knowing exactly what she was doing.

Now I find this vitally useful when listening to my own intuition. When posing a question to myself and the Universe at large, it’s easy to whine my way through a myriad of questions and huff a sigh of frustration at the end… still feeling confused. However, with my new tool of prayer journaling, I write my questions one at a time and wait patiently until the answer arrives. I’ve been so satisfied with the speed of most results, that when it doesn’t come quickly, I’m not the least bit bothered by it. I simply know from experience, that the answer will come when I’m ready.

me journaling in our bedroom

It’s all in the name… – Sep 21st, 2007

Hello friends…

I’m trying out my new name and would love feedback. I found a delightfully witty company in San Fransico called http://www.ahundredmonkeys.com who inspired me to improve upon my branding. There Top 10 Tips for naming a company included “check to see if it has a pulse” and something to the affect… it needs to relate to the topic but also have mystery. My previous name did not meet either of these requirements and I think my new name does.

BLISSfix, Inc. – where you feed your happiness addiction.

I’d love to hear any positive feedback and any other catchy suggestions. Thanks so much!

-heather

To Drink or not to Drink, that is the question – Sep 5th, 2007

A curiosity that has been coursing my brain lately is… “why is alcohol so important in our society?” This summer has been very different for me socially. Going out has lost its luster, single friends have become more difficult to entertain… the things that used to satisfy my leisure time don’t even come close anymore. In the last three months I’ve gone from 1-2 drinks a day, to maybe 1-2 drinks a week. I’ve considered and continue to consider going dry all together. (I don’t like rigidity, so that’s the only thing keeping me from saying the declaration at this point) A lot of what I’m studying now credits chemicals we put in our bodies (caffeine, alcohol, excess sugars, prescription and non prescription drugs, etc.) with preventing us from experiencing real happiness and peace. And when look at it… it’s true. I drink when i need to achieve a mood shift that I assume my brain, my spirit, and my heart can’t handle on their own. And everytime I use that alcohol crutch to ease stress, or “cut off the work day,” i cripple my natural ability to maintain a state of well being without the aide of anything. Meditation, journaling, talking to my coach, etc. has become a much more positive way of moving forward and shifting my life to one that I enjoy more authentically.

One thing I have noticed though, is that it has been difficult to find social outlets that support my new outlook. I found solace at a coffee shop, (drinking caffeine free of course) but somewhere around dark the mood shifted to a bunch of chain smoking AA groups. Since I’m very protective of my lungs, that’s not an option. But I’m still searching. I’m holding out on faith that within the next few weeks I will attract a group of people who are seeking similar forms of entertainment in a state of productive awareness instead of denial & detachment.

Pretty much every activity I do these days has to move me forward on my chosen path of happiness or I become irritated. And with that, alcohol is starting to bug me as it doesn’t achieve for me the state of relaxation it used to deliver… now I feel like it simply “dumbs me down” and slows my progress.

Like I said, I prefer to avoid rigidity and embrace conscious choice… so no declarations just yet, but I am asking myself with each opportunity to drink… does this beverage serve me right now? Or can I learn something about my inner strength, my inner light, and my true self by having a water instead? I hope the answer continues to lead me to water.

Creating a Covenant with the Universe – Aug 16th, 2007

With the understanding these three of the Laws of the Universe, the Law of Oneness, the Law of Neutrality and the Law of Attraction, we realize that we already are who we want to be. We realize that the universe supports us in every loving step toward our desired reality. We realize that we are one, right now, with everything that is, ever has been and ever will be… we are whole. With that understanding I claim now my own power with the strength of the universe and I encourage you to do the same.

MY COVENANT WITH THE UNIVERSE

The Universe supports me with messages, clear and wise messages that direct me confidently on my path. I am connected to the source and these messages at all times. The Universe provides abundance in advance, so that I am always in a state of enoughness… almost to the point that opportunities and green energy arrives and I think, “oh, God must have something planned for me!” The Universe lovingly reflects back to me my strengths and shows me, guides me, pushes me into the path of my destiny. Joy, happiness and fulfillment come easily to me, as do abundance and constant gratitude.

I know and realize that I create my life. I agree to consciously create, knowing Universal Law is always there ready to support me in whatever I am willing to receive. I create in conscious connection with Spirit, knowing that I am already all that I am destined to be… I am ready now. Guidance, support and abundance is my birthright. All wisdom and approriate opportunities flow easily to me as I joyfully create my successful, expansive, fun, fulfilling, Spirit-driven business to change the world for the better.

This is my covenant with the Universe and my reality.

I will be changing this daily… re-reading it and altering it to feel more authentic and understandable each day. I sincerely encourage you to establish your written relationship with your Universe… it is the most empowering belief you can cultivate in yourself… a conscious decision to be connected, to be perfect as you are, and to receive all that you want to be.

Peace and Many Blessings,
Heather

Life has Loveliness – Aug 12th, 2007

It’s funny when things find you. today Sara Teasdale found me. Never mind that she’s 75 years in the grave. Below is what she had to say.

Barter
“Life has loveliness to sell,
All beautiful and splendid things,
Blue waves whitened on a cliff,
Soaring fire that sways and sings,
And children’s faces looking up,
Holding wonder like a cup.
Life has loveliness to sell,
Music like a curve of gold,
Scent of pine trees in the rain,
Eyes that love you, arms that hold,
And for your spirit’s still delight,
Holy thoughts that star the night.
Spend all you have for loveliness,
Buy it and never count the cost;
For one white singing hour of peace
Count many a year of strife well lost,
And for a breath of ecstasy
Give all you have been, or could be.”
Sara Teasdale

Spend all you have and never count the cost. I love it. I feel sure that if she was reincarnated, she must have returned to us as the wonderful lyricist Joni Mitchell.

So what does that mean for me? and what does it mean for you? What is your definition of loveliness? your breath of ecstasy?

For me, I completely connect with her description of nature… how that watching the rain or basking in the sun or scents so unique they bring back memories of far away times… how that these simple, over-lookable things can become a spiritual experience and a connection to the infinite. To be in that state of awe and wonder… to look through the eyes of a child… is to be in a state of absolute bliss.

My challenge to you is to consider how you can do this minute by minute, hour by hour and respond back here. What could serve as a reminder to “hold wonder like a cup?” Also, with that response… please share moments of feeling this way in your past and also in this present moment… share your version of loveliness.